No Guarantees but A LOT of Possibilities

11 Oct

“Love with your whole heart, even though there is no guarantee”

David went and listened to Brene Brown last night and sent me her TED talk. I just finished watching it and wow, is she amazing.  She kind of hit who I was right on the nose.  I refer to “old Laura” a lot and I don’t always know how to explain what I mean by that. This kind of enlightened me a little to that answer or at least some of it.

I used to want everything to be black and white, yes or no, this or that, 100% or 0%, I had a hard time with the in between-the grey area.  You know how people use the phrase, “when you know you know” or “when it’s right you just know it” I used to have such a hard time believing that. But what it really came down to was that it wasn’t right-whatever “it” is. I know that now too because there are a lot of things in my life right now that I know are right, because they feel right, I am finally a believer in, “when you know you know”. It took a while for me be like this and I think a lot of it comes down to Vulnerability.

Vulnerability is a hard thing to allow yourself to feel, but like Dr. Brown said, it’s a necessity of life.  How will we make progress in life if we don’t allow ourselves to feel vulnerable, it’s how we grow. If you don’t allow such feeling you will find yourself in a stagnant state.  This can relate to all levels of importance in life, small things, big things, anything really! I mean, every time I hop up on the rings I make myself vulnerable to failure, but if I don’t keep trying I won’t ever succeed. Now I know that is a somewhat small or insignificant, well actually it’s pretty significant to me, but you get the idea. Same goes for love-all types of love. Love from parents, siblings, significant others, friends, co works, and strangers-we have to put ourselves out there and realize that we are worth it. What is ‘it’ you ask? “it” is anything you want it to be!

I think for me it had a lot to do with confidence, realizing that ‘I am enough’, that I am fun, loving, caring, hardworking, dedicated, honest, and one day everyone I surround myself with will think the exact same thing.  Crossfit has helped me a lot with the self-confidence and it’s humbling all at the same time, it puts me in a constant state of vulnerability.  I set the bar high for myself and it’s scary. There is a chance I won’t be the athlete or coach I want to be, but I’m willing and able to give it a go.  There are a lot of uncertainties in life, but one thing I am certain of is that I will fight for what I want, what I believe in, who I want to be.  I always say, “I’m a lover not a fighter” but in this sense, I guess I’m both =) Life is full of emotions, good and bad ones, but we have to allow ourselves to feel every emotion because according to Dr. Brown we can’t be selective to the feelings we numb ourselves too. So if we try to shy away from feelings of disappointment, anger, lose, fear, sadness then we also don’t allow ourselves to feel happy, joyful, delighted or blessed.  So remember when you are having a day/month/year filled with a little disappointment or sadness that happiness and excitement are just around the corner =) Embrace the bad with the good, it’s the bad that builds character, strength and gives us the courage to keep going. 

*it’s 20 minutes long, but worth every second-highly recommend watching it, clearly =)


2 Responses to “No Guarantees but A LOT of Possibilities”

  1. jhall October 11, 2012 at 12:31 pm #

    “…I am fun, loving, caring, hardworking, dedicated, honest, and one day everyone I surround myself with will think the exact same thing.”

    Laura, I laughed out loud when reading this because it’s already pretty obvious to me (and I suspect many, many others!) that you already exemplify those qualities!

    Thanks for sharing, love it. 🙂

  2. Sue October 11, 2012 at 12:53 pm #

    LOVE THIS! Thank you!

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