Comparison is the Thief of Joy

12 Dec


We all do it; whether we are male or female, skinny or fat, athletic or awkward, smart or not. It happens. We compare ourselves to others, but why? Nothing good comes from comparing yourself to another.

Rachel and I were sitting and drinking our morning coffee, hands down the best part of the day, and we were talking about Crossfit. Of course, what else would we be talking about?? =) and I was reflecting on the competition a few weeks ago and of course comparing myself to the other athletes.  Those girls were awesome! She said something along the lines of, “You can’t keep comparing yourself to them. You have to remember all the things personally you accomplished that weekend. This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes, ‘comparison is the thief of joy’.” And clearly, because I am me, I said “I am totally blogging about that!” haha she just shook her head and smiled. But she is SO dead on.

I think as humans we can’t help ourselves when it comes to comparing our achievements to others achievements, or looks, or brains or anything worthwhile. And I think for me as far as being a Crossfit Athlete, it has to happen sometimes because I have to be better than them. But we all need to take a few steps back and just think about ourselves and the lives we are living, progress we are making.

I say this to every new athletes that comes into CFD “One of the best things about Crossfit is that it is measurable. You can compare your weights and times from Day 1 to Day 30 to Day 300 and so on.” I love looking back at my old journals and seeing the progress I have made and where I am lacking for that matter. I realized the other day that I hadn’t PRed my snatch in almost 3+ months. WHAAATTTT!!! I told Noal and he was like, Saturday-you + me + new PR, 1pm. Be there. Is said okay =) So the measurability aspect of Crossfit doesn’t always bring good news, but it can shed light on the things you need to continue to work on and give more attention to.


This idea goes for everything in life too. Choose Joy.  Don’t let anyone or anything steal joy away from you. It’s okay to have pity parties every now and again, but choose to focus on the good things in life, choose to be happy. Some people with argue that it is not always a choice, but I think it is. I think there are moments and days, when you are just not going to be a happy camper and that is okay. And bad things will happen in your life as they do in everyone’s, but it is how we respond to these things that determine how our life goes. As a whole I believe we can choose to be joyful, to be cheery, and to smile. No one likes to see people with their brows down and a frown on their face, smile-the world is a beautiful place!


I continue to have a lot to be joyful about in my life.  The newest contribution to this is my sponsorship with LatitudeGearRx! They are a Crossfit Apparel company that started up a few months ago and is based in Providence-Check them out and like them on Facebook.  I am truly honored to be a part of their team and I am excited for what the future holds! Thanks LatitudeGearRx for choosing me to represent your line, I will do so with dignity and hard work.

2 Responses to “Comparison is the Thief of Joy”

  1. Erin December 12, 2012 at 1:16 pm #

    I like your line of thinking here. Not sure if you would have seen Stuart Smalley on Saturday Night Live back in the early 90’s? He would start his “therapy” show by saying: “I’m gonna do a terrific show today, and I’m gonna help people because I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and, doggonit, people like me.” Anyway, the most memorable of his catch-phrases was about comparing yourself to others. He’d say, “Compare and Despair,” and I think he was right.

    • lmurphy1017 December 12, 2012 at 3:09 pm #

      I haven’t heard of Stuart Smalley but I will definitely look him up! Thanks for your reply, I like his catch phrase a lot! Same wave length for sure

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