YOU are in CONTROL

19 Nov

So often we allow others to dictate how we feel, think, and act. But why? We are in control of all of those things; our emotions, our actions, our thoughts…they are ALL our own.

You and only you can control your emotions. Yes, there are things that will want to make you feel differently but ultimately it is up to you whether you allow those feelings to change. Is it too cold? Was your boss mean today? Did someone cut you off while you were driving today? Was the check-out lady slow? How will you let these little situations effect your emotions?

Will you give the weather, your boss, the random driver and check out lady the power to interfere with your day? Will you give them the power to alter your mood? You can say no. You have control. Keep it.

I just finished reading an article sent to me by the lovely Raddis, about being mentally strong. I tend to have a lot of emotions, and by tend to, I mean I do. =) I can’t help it, it is who I am. With that being said though I am always striving to find emotional balance in my life. I think one thing that makes me who I am is that I have a lot of feelings, and I care a lot. But there are times when my emotions can allow other people to have control over me and I think that is where the work comes in- continuous work to become and stay mentally strong.

As I read this article there were moments when I thought, “Okay, I’m good at this.” Or “Okay, I don’t do that so that’s good.” And then there were moments when I said things to myself like, “oooohhhh, yeah I definitely need to work on that” or “Yup, that’s me. I do that”. Life’s about balance.

This quote stuck out to me as well.

“Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.”

I so often want to make everyone happy. I am sure there are many of you out there that feel that way. One thing I’ve been working on for a lot the past 3-4 years, is recognizing the times it is appropriate to put myself first.  And also knowing when I don’t come first, when my career, my significant other, a family member, a friend, a stranger comes first. There are times for both.

Choosing yourself at times DOES NOT make you selfish. It makes you human. You deserve to be happy just as much as the next person. Don’t forget that.

Do something once a day for yourself. Purely. Only because you want to. I dare you.  Can you?

Some might say that being mentally strong means living life with less emotion. I don’t believe that. I don’t believe that in order to be mentally tough you have to be cold or rude. My goal in life is to be mentally tough and still the same loving, happy, outgoing women I was raised to be. Balanced. 27 years and still working…but I know I am on the right path. Are you?

Who do you want to be?

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Life is about constantly trying to better yourself. Evolve. Grow. Learn. Educate. Repeat. Repeat Again.

Happy Tuesday =)

If you are interested here is the article on being mentally strong.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont.html

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